I have finally become aware that my wedding, the BIG day
a.k.a Project Happily Ever After is about 4 months or so away…I realised that I have not done much at all and am I start
to freakout.
The Princess Project is going… Well nowhere but I have been
trying. Staying away from goodies like Famous Amos Chocolate Chip Cookies {I love
love them}, ice cream {okay I had a couple over the past year but have consumed
lso much lesser than before}, slurpees, cakes {ok… fine! I had couple of these two},
nasi lemak {cut down by heaps}, rice {the odd spoonful here and there} and
practically no supper and breakfasts of cornflakes {Special K and Nestle
Fitness} and low fat milk with the odd couple of coco pops thrown in for flavor.
But I have been good {or trying my best to be}… I guess I have to really rev it
up A LOT!!!
Then there is the gigantic List {5 pages of A3 paper} that I
have developed and am working on ~ adding things, moving deadlines, removing
things and then adding them again… {you get the idea}.
This List is an ever-changing document with “things to do”
for my church and Chinese wedding.
It’s a mammoth List – literally! It makes my eyes hurt just
by looking at it. But it’s a good way to keep track of the things I need to do
and follow-up on. But every time I look at it I feel panicky and start getting
a little crazy mad. The whole, so many things to do so little time ~ egad!
Ok. Let’s get back to the whole intention of my post. To
reflect on my wedding ~ not the scary bits that are freaking me out but more
about the “wedding” it its self. So here goes…
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But I think with all this planning, stalking visiting pretty wedding websites and flipping through
mountains {literally mountains} of bridal magazines, I tend to forgot the
important elements about B’s and my
wedding. Weddings should really be about the couple and their celebration of
love ~ the happiness that they have together which will be doubled once they
are married. It is the feeling of finally belonging to someone, to have someone
with you for always through thick and thin, through the ups and downs and everything
in between. It is about the magic and the happily ever after.
A beautiful wedding is not about what your relatives want. Nor should it be the price you paid for you photographer or that
you did a destination pre-wedding photo shoot. It is not about the hotel you booked and the 100 tables you
will hosting for your dinner. It is not about the imported bridal bouquet or the ambience
lighting in the church.
It is not about the designer gown and the Cartier or Tiffany
wedding bands. It is not about forcing the groom to consume large amounts
of alcohol to get him wasted on his wedding day. It is not about the luxury bridal car nor the designer
weddings shoes you have on. It is not showing off or parading the loads of money you
have.There will be people commenting about everything and anything
no matter how perfect your wedding is.
But we have to remind ourselves about the true meaning of
marriage and being together.
A wonderful wedding should at the end of the day, {regardless
of scale, grandeur and perfectness} be a happy and joyous celebration. A celebration
where you see the bride and groom surrounded by family and friends with smiles
on their faces and laughter in their eyes. You see hugs and your hear happy
chatter and merry laughter.
I sometimes get carried away when I see “perfect weddings”. I
become envious and WISH I had this, that I could afford that and etc.But then when I think about it I realise that at the end of
the day, the one thing I want is to be happy and to have a memorably wonderful
celebration with people who love me and care for me.
Filled with God’s tender presence, family, friends,
laughter, love and happiness. At the end of the day, it really is B’s and my special day.
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Dear God,
Help me to remember the real essence
of what a
wedding should be like
amidst all the preparations and crazy
busy days to come.
May you watch over B & I
so that
whatever choices that we make
will only strengthen the bond
and love we have
for each other. Amen.
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